Goliath’s method works because you are the best gift you can give to people. Your presence is one of the only unique traits about you. The knowledge you contain, the words you speak, and the money that you have are all considerable benefits in your relationships, but they can be easily replicated. However, you, as an individual, are the one thing that can not be replicated…unless your identical twin is that exceptional ;)
Many men do not realize that a strong sense of self, represented through their presence in any given moment with those that they are around, is a gift to humanity. Women, understand this and may call it confidence, which you totally understand because you read my article about
BECOMING THE MOST CONFIDENT MAN EVER.
I know. It's confusing because you hear women say, "I want a man that is confident and that can make me laugh." They hardly ever mention materialistic matters. Yet, they tend to be drawn to men who have money, resources, and renown. These traits are helpful, but typically the man that has earned this status understands himself more than the man who doesn’t.
The key point is this. If you have a strong sense of self and presence, a woman is attracted to you simply by the fact that you are a man. That’s it. If you think that that is too simple, then that is your blindspot.
Inherently, you think you need more to be good enough for a woman, and this is unattractive.
A woman, biologically, does not need $1000 or $1000000 dollars to reproduce, a bicycle or Lamborghini to have a family, or humor nor a strong personality to fertilize her eggs. These things can be extremely helpful in the process, but they aren’t biologically necessary.
The moment you have this realization about your own presence will empower you in it. The more you try to obtain approval from others will ruin it.
Our second main point is this, a strong sense of self and presence is powerful, but unintentionally having low-quality behaviors will undermine who you are. Imagine, you are physically fit, financially stable, driven, and full of knowledge from your self-development journey. Yet you unknowingly have the behavior of always talking over a woman while she is speaking because you want to show how smart you are to the world. That trait is validation seeking and can sabotage ALL of your good qualities. This is because women have a need to “be heard”, and your trait is conflicting with her core need.
Moreover, visualize that you are sure of your presence, a great listener, confident, and aware of social cues to when it is appropriate to talk and when it is appropriate to shut up. Good for you! But your worst trait is that you overeat and you are 700 pounds. Yes, you have done so many things correctly, but the one negative trait can undermine all that you have built.
Term this "negative low-hanging fruit."
Identify and eliminate all negative low-hanging fruit in your life that is killing your attraction. Once you eliminate most of your downsides, you will only be left with you at the core, which is the most prominent upside you have.
